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Face Your Fears in Life for Love

Thursday, June 9th, 2011

Love is scary. And, hey, so is a date every now and then. (I still remember my date who, fidgeting in his seat after dinner, suggested we dine and dash instead of paying; I laid down my credit card and dashed from him right after).

But one of the best ways to get past the fear of opening yourself up for love with your half-orange is to face your fears in life. And that’s just what one author, Noelle Hancock did, which she writes about in her new book My Year with Eleanor.

Now, I haven’t actually gotten the book yet, but I will. Because the book is a stirring example of dating and life optimism: For whether or not you reach a goal or find love as quickly as you want, when you embrace the now, face your fears, and become the best you, you’ll enjoy the journey of life more along the way. And that’s the best part.

As you’ll see in her book video, down and out after being laid off two years ago, Noelle came across the famous quote by Eleanor Roosevelt—”Do one thing every day that scares you”—and took it literally. In her one “year of fear,” Noelle learned to fly on a trapeze, jumped out of an airplane, hiked Mt. Kilimanjaro and did stand-up comedy (which nearly makes my palms sweat as much as they did when I watched this guy climb to the top of the Sears transmission tower to fix it). And whether it was a physical fear or an emotional one, she was all the better for it:


Love and life are scary. But go ahead, call them on it: Grab the microphone or the trapeze bar or the second date with the person who could potentially be a perfect life partner for you and see what happens. I think Eleanor Roosevelt would be proud. But more important, you’ll be damn proud of yourself.

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Big love,




Your Superbowl Pep Talk for Love!

Monday, January 31st, 2011

In honor of the upcoming Superbowl, I was watching this funny video featuring the best pep talks from sports movies, and I couldn’t help but think how spot-on the advice is for love, too. If you need the confidence this weekend to get out there in love and absolutely kill it on the dating field the way the Superbowl teams will be killing it on the playing field, this is it.

As my favorite part of the edit says: “Everything y’all done to this point…means nothing if you lose yourself.” And that is so incredibly true about dating, isn’t it? Finding a great relationship isn’t about changing yourself to be who someone wants. It’s about being true to yourself and attracting the right person for just who you are. Don’t lose you.


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Big love,

Would You Make Out With Him Anyway?

Friday, December 3rd, 2010

I just had myself an LOL moment today. And I really needed it. I’ve been having a down week in which even this optimist wasn’t feeling the optimism. So I have to give it to this video for sucking a little laugh out of my small spare tire of a belly.

Even the show's poster is hilarious.

The credit goes to a live theater show in Hollywood, Los Angeles called I Made Out With Him Anywaybilled as a multi-media, cabaret-style extravaganza starring Evie Peck and Kirstin Eggers, based on their collection of very true man dates gone very very wrong. For anyone in the Hollywood hood, there is one new show next week, December 7th, 2010, and tickets are available, so you might want to snatch one up. Because if the show itself is anything as funny as the first video in the creator’s web series, it’s gonna be good.

Which brings me to the I Made Out With Him Anyway web show. If you’ve ever had a disappointing online first date, you’ll probably appreciate the re-enactment of one girl’s true dating story. Check out the episode: Date #1: Stephanie and Cooper and ask yourself: Would you still make out with this guy? (I think not.)

Then, the next time you find your heart sinking during a date (or in a job interview, or at an apartment showing you’d set all your hopes on), just know that you’re not alone. We all go through these every day, and the best way to survive a bad date may be to turn your highly disappointed moment into highly-larious. How will you re-tell—or re-enact—your next bad date? And do you have any bad dates in your story roster that help get you or your friends out of a funk when you need ’em?

P.S. I’d like to point out that this is only the second time in all my digital life I’ve ever typed LOL. Whoops, okay, now the third. The first was in a Facebook comment last week. The second was when I wrote it up there in the post itself. And now again here. But I kind of like it. It makes me smile a little to type it. I mean, I am a laugh out loud kind of a girl. LOL. Uh-oh, I might start getting too used to this…

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Big love,

An Everlasting Love

Monday, September 6th, 2010

Wow, this is something special.

This is a video that reader of my book named Doni Conner found and posted on the Meeting Your Half-Orange Facebook Group page (which, by the way, is a great way to get in touch, say hi and share your story!) My eyes are still wet from viewing it, and I knew I needed to share it with you. If you’re in a Starbucks or a busy office where everyone can see you, be warned: it’s moving. Click on this image of the video:

Click this image to be directed to the video on Vimeo.

Or on this link here: Danny & Annie from StoryCorps on Vimeo. Their story is so moving, so simple and so real. And I hope it inspires you the way it has inspired me today.

The next time you kick yourself wondering why you’re even bothering with all this dating, and if there are guys and girls out there who are full of love and want what you want, let Danny & Annie be your answer. You’re bothering because of this. Because this is what love is. Someone to walk into life with together, who’ll offer you ice cream at night and stir your heart.

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Big love,

The Turtle Twosome

Wednesday, August 18th, 2010

Relationships are all about leaning on each other, right? Well, the same way we practice piano before a big concert, I think it’s good practice to start leaning on people in life before your big relationship. Sometimes you will need them, and sometimes they will need you.

For a little reminder of that today, here’s a video my Mom forwarded me that is short but sweet. It’s a little example of how we all sometimes need someone else—that every so often we can’t do it alone. After seeing this today, I’m going to start thinking about people in my life who may need me, and about how I can let my husband and friends and family be needed in return. Real love is always a give and take. And these turtles (and some Michael Bolton, yo) can help us remember that:

I say, let’s all look for some people that are a little turned-over today, right? It’ll help us take the focus off how topsy turvy we are, and it’ll feel and be good for us to remember how important it is to give when someone needs—just like the love you’ll have with your half-orange.

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Big love,