Archive for March, 2010



Wednesday, March 31st, 2010

Green PillYour dose for today…

Today’s Vitamin is in honor of my sister, Liz, whose birthday it is today. Liz, sorry I can’t be there to celebrate with you, but Happy Happy Birthday!

(Image: Alvin Ailey American Dance Theater's Linda Celeste Sims. By Andrew Eccles)

(Image: Alvin Ailey American Dance Theater's Linda Celeste Sims. By Andrew Eccles)

“Stand up and dance the dance you were born to dance.”

—Marianne Willamson, given at her lecture on 3/16/10

I don’t care if you’re a good dancer or not, you know what she means. There is something powerful inside each and every one of us, and if you haven’t yet found what that is—what moves you, what drives you, what brings out your best—then start looking. Bring your half-orange the best and truest version of yourself. The closer you get to dancing your dance, the sooner you’ll feel when you’ve truly found your other half.

Big love,

Amy Signature 4

Vitamin Optimism: Plant Your Apple Tree

Tuesday, March 30th, 2010

Green PillYour dose for today…

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Whatever your tree...plant it (Image: Ken Spencer)

“Even if I knew that tomorrow the world would go to pieces, I would still plant my apple tree.”

—Martin Luther

I love this. It’s such a simple way to remind us that we can’t keep living for our futures. Yes, of course you want a great future, a great love, a family perhaps. But just because you may not yet have those gifts in your life, you have others. Your life today is a gift. Don’t waste it. Not a second.

Big love,

Amy Signature 4

Vitamin Optimism: You, Dreambound

Monday, March 29th, 2010

Green PillYour dose for the day…


“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.”

—Ralph Waldo Emerson

Well, look at that. Emerson was an optimist! He knew, as I do, how easy it is to get stalled in the pit of a place you don’t want to be. When you’re single, you know that pit, right? Feeling like there’s no hope for a future relationship. Fearing you’ll never meet anyone? That nothing will ever change? That you’ll have to watch each one of your friends marry off while you end up alone? If you want your dream relationship, do as Emerson said: Go confidently in that direction and live—really livethe life you have imagined.

Big love,

Amy Signature 4

Some Traveling Gifts For You!

Friday, March 26th, 2010

Machu Picchu: Insert me here.

For the next three weeks, I’ll be traveling with my husband through Argentina and Peru. (And if you’ve read Meeting Your Half-Orange, you know this was a goal of ours and on my Dream Board, so we’re making it happen!) Since we already have a house-sitter for our place, I thought I’d do something else for you while I was gone: Leave you with some presents! I figured you might not want a “My Dating Optimist Went to South America and All I Got Was This Lousy T-Shirt” shirt, right? So, instead, I’m leaving behind these two helpful treats:

20070301_vitamin1) One-A-Day Vitamin Optimism! For the next three weeks, I have arranged for you to still get your doses of positivity in smaller nuggets. I’m calling the posts Vitamin Optimism. And every day, you can check back here for a quote or saying from someone I admire to get you going for the day. (Or, if you have my iPhone App, Half-Orange Optimisms, you can just shake your phone for an original dose of inspiration the second you want it.) So tune in and let the words guide you when you need it.

2) A Dating Tele-Chat! When I return, I will be participating in a super fun Tele-Chat called “Girls Night In: Four Dating Experts Dish on Finding Mr. Right.” The class was created by Kira Sabin, the Dating Makeover Coach and, with fabulous giveaways from The Body Shop.

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The  tele-event begins while I’m gone, which is why I’m telling you now: Every Monday night for four weeks—from April 5th to April 26th—a different dating author expert will be providing free dating insight. The class will feature a different chat each week with myself, as well as experts Lori Gottlieb, Rachel Greenwald and Lisa Steadman. Save the Date for Monday April 26th at 9 pm EST/6 pm Pacific, when I will be offering my free insight to using dating optimism based on the neuroscientific and positive psychology research and personal successes that I write about in Meeting Your Half-Orange. Just sign-up for the Tele-chat at Kira’s site to get all the call-in details.

Have a great three weeks, and stay healthy will all your Vitamin Optimism! Then I hope you’ll join me on the phone April 26th when I return.

Big traveling love,

Amy Signature 4

Come Up with YOUR New Story

Thursday, March 25th, 2010

There are two things I love most about posting on this site:

1) That once I started writing about all the optimism I saw out there in the world—on TV, in books, in speeches, in the actions of others—I found myself feeling even better about life, and more hopeful that we can all learn to be more optimistic.

Hilda (played by Ana Ortiz) on Ugly Betty

Hilda (played by Ana Ortiz) on Ugly Betty

2) Hearing from you guys—especially when you find something that reminds you of the site. It’s proof of one major element about dating optimism: With practice, you can see the world through more positive eyes. And I wanted to thank one reader in particular this week for going above-and-beyond in what she found.

While watching Ugly Betty this past week, a reader named Andrea was so moved by a scene, she essentially wrote her own post on it in an email to me, and all I thought when I read it was, “Yes! Yes! Yes!” Why? Because I want you all doing the same thing: I want you to practice finding the positive messages out there in your life and dating experiences, because the more you do it, the sooner it will become second nature.

Here then is (drumroll please…)

Our first Guest Blog Post from Andrea Rodriguez:

Hi Amy,
I just *had* to send this to you. One of my favorite shows is Ugly Betty and I’m sad that its being canceled even though I think its had the best episodes so far since season one. Well last week Betty dated a dude that was cute and smart, but there was a mystery about their relationship that Betty didn’t quite find out until it was too late, and it was extremely humiliating. Anyway, she stands up for herself, but afterward has this conversation with her sister, Hilda.

Betty: This whole time I thought I was the one hiding him, but he was hiding me. And the worse part on some level, I *knew* how this was going to end.
Hilda: Oh come one, come on. You can’t turn this into something that it is not.
Betty: It’s true. Every time I feel like I’m moving forward, someone reminds me that I’m still just the dork with glasses and braces.
Hilda: Yeah, but…those braces will be coming off any day now.
Betty: Yeah but what if nothing changes? Then I’ll have nothing to blame.
Hilda: Oh honey, you gotta stop. Somehow, you got it in your head that this is your story. But you gotta let that go. It’s time to come up with a whole new story for yourself. You are who you are, and the sooner you’re ok with that, the sooner that you see what I see, the happier you’re gonna be. I swear to God.

I just thought it was right up the Half-Orange alley. Not only did Betty, in the back of her mind think it was going to fail…but she kept wonder what was wrong with *her* and her sister points out that nothing is wrong and she has to change the way she sees herself…not the way others see her.

Anyway, everytime I watch it makes me all teary eyed because not only have my friends said this to me countless times, even my ex has said it to me. Before, I would have scoffed at it (“You’re just saying this because you love me”, but my best friend’s fiancé always points out to her—when she says something like this to him, he replies “You have the order wrong. It’s because of this, that I love you.” Sweet, huh?) But now…I’m finally starting to believe it and I suppose that’s why this was so powerful for me. I’m starting to see what all this positive stuff is doing for me and it feels great.

Anyway, I just finished you’re book, turned it over and began in again. It really is starting to work…I even got talked to at a bar yesterday while out with my roommate (nothing happened but it was a reminder that it can). That had never happened! =) I’m just that much closer. Thank you so much for being such a cheerleader for us…us who you don’t even know personally =)


Well done, Andrea! What a great way to express how we all need to take in the right message, and gift ourselves a more flattering story. The message was in Ugly Betty this week, but it might be in your office, or during your commute, or during a conversation with your friends during American Idol commercials. The fact is, if you start digging for the good stuff in yourself and in life, you will change in the right ways for the better.

Do as Hilda said, and as Andrea is starting to do slowly each and every day: Come up with a new story for yourself, a story where you are lovable and awesome and the right guy or girl will be swept away with how lucky they are to meet you. Before you know it, you’ll be getting talked to at bars all over town…

Big love,

Amy Signature 4