We interrupt this offbeat advice-giving broadcast to share the first item of magazine press for my upcoming book, Meeting Your Half-Orange. Why? Because the more singles that read the book, the more happy, radiating people there will be out there, and the better the world will be because of it! Plus, this being my first book, I’m uber-excited about getting the word out.

Here’s the clip from the “Pocket Psychologist” section First for Women magazine:

They’re right: Having an optimistic view can attract your other half! Just remember, though, your positive views aren’t worth much if you don’t inject them with intense emotion and take some action—which is what the book explains exactly how to do. One things I especially love about this review that you can take with you today:

Think of butterflies. I know butterflies get a cliché rap sometimes, but the cycle of their lives is seriously miraculous and reflective of who we all are when we’re trying to enter a new phase of being. If you’re looking for your other half, make this the month of weaving yourself inside a blanket of feeling like the person you want to be in your dream relationship. Live in it, rest in it, and then, when you’re ready for your big relationship, open up and let yourself fly. Let the energy that’s been bubbling inside you bring your other half straight to you.

You may also like this story of a guy who created his own press to find love:
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Big love,

I recently sat down with “I Kissed a Girl” singer Katy Perry for dinner at the Sunset Marquis in West Hollywood, and our conversation appears in the Glamour cover interview this month.

Katy talks about love in "shapes," too.

And while I know it sounds like such a cliché when you read things like this, she rolled in to our meeting looking pretty and fresh-faced, with no makeup, wearing gym clothes and sneaks, the total softer side of what I expected. What also surprised me? How whipsmart, emotionally mature and grounded she was at just 25 years old.

I told her about Meeting Your Half-Orange—which will be in bookstores soon! Or, buy it here now at Amazon.com—and what the term meant. I explained how the half-orange (based on the Spanish phrase mi media naranja) is such a wonderful symbol of a good relationship. If you picture the fruit split open, it’s two sweet halves meeting in the middle. Neither side is bigger or bolder, and neither side is being taken over or engulfed; it’s just two halves that meet in the center and create a full, healthy, round orange of a solid relationship.

Katy, it turns out, had the same picture in mind for what she wanted in her other half. Here is what she said in the interview:

GLAMOUR: You once said you’d wait five more years to get married. What will make you ready to settle down?

KATY PERRY: When I find a partner who is my teammate. I’m not going to play by any rules, I’m just going to go with my heart. Why wait? I just wrote a song [that goes], “They say it’s hard to meet your match, gotta find my other half so we can make a perfect shape.”

Well, over New Year’s, Katy got engaged to her teammate, British comedian Russell Brand (of Forgetting Sarah Marshall fame)! Sounds like she found her other half. And if you still want to find yours, keep that same picture in mind.

If you meet someone and it’s not feeling like their orange half is meeting yours in the middle—you’re always the one doing the texting, or you’re always pushing for an “official” date that’s not coming to pass, or maybe you’re feeling like you’re steamrolling them—then it’s probably not the right relationship. You want to feel equal respect, equal attention and equal affection, and your true half-orange will give you all that and more.

Big love,

I talk a lot about finding your other half—and specifically, of course, your half-orange. But I found a new appreciation for a term we toss around all the time: your better half.

Who's the better half? You should both be. (Image: ABC.com)

It came while watching Sunday’s episode of Brothers & Sisters, which I happen to love. (I mean, that Sally Field makes me cry happy and sad tears every single week.) This episode, Robert (played by Rob Lowe) was talking about his cancer-stricken wife Kitty (played by Ally McCalista Flockhart). From the podium at a press conference, he said these simple words:

I almost lost my better half.

And suddenly, the words made more sense to me than ever. Because the best gift we can give ourselves in a relationship is to find a partner who is “better” than us in many ways—someone we can look up to, admire and learn from. Someone with a big, warm, wonderful heart who makes you want to be a better person. And you want them, of course, to feel the same way about you.

So when you’re trying to decide if some schmucky date who’s being rude to the waitress and short with you could be your future mate, think again! (And this time, think “no.”) Your life will be enhanced if you can find someone you can look up to who finds being with you just as inspiring. Find your better half. 

Big love,