Optimisms
Cheering each other on
4 Reasons To Read Meeting Your Half-Orange!
Today’s the day! Yippee ki yay, MYHO-ers!
It’s the official launch of my book Meeting Your Half-Orange: An Utterly Upbeat Guide to Using Dating Optimism to Find Your Perfect Match!
The book is on shelves TODAY!
And I wanted to make sure you knew the true extent of how much the book can help your love and dating life—and that of your single friends, coworkers and cousins. Because it’s not merely a re-printing of the positive thoughts I find in life, in books, in music, and in reality television like High School Reunion. (Oh, the quality I pass on…)
The book is an actual step-by-step guide to using your optimism to draw the right person straight to you. If you really want to rocket yourself to the relationship of your dreams, the book will do it. Here’s why:
1. You’ll learn the science behind the optimism. Thinking positively feels great, but every once in a while, you can get to the place I once reached: “What the hell’s the point? I’ve been cheery about this whole dating thing and it’s gotten me nothing. I give up!” Well, thanks to the recent scientific discovery of neuroplasticity, we now know that our thoughts have a mind-changing effect on the neural activity and structure of our emotional brains. And once you understand how this works, you won’t think “What’s the point?” again. Instead, you’ll be driven to change your thoughts to change your dating life forever.
2. You’ll learn to fight your “I’m still single!” panic. You know that fear you have that you’re the only one who’s going to end up alone? You can kick that fear’s butt out the door for good and take charge of your hope and determination for love again. The book will tell you why and how.
3. You’ll get specific instructions on how to “choose your orange seed.” You want an awesomely wonderful relationship. But are you asking for it in the right way? In the book, I’ll tell you how you might be asking for your right relationship in the wrong way, and exactly how to ask for what you truly want and feel empowered to get it.
4. You’ll learn how to create the “orange buzz.” Feeling positive is one thing. But working up an emotionally charged orange buzz to “feed your seed”—that’s what’s going to turn you into a knock-‘em-dead relationship magnet. The orange buzz is the magic behind attracting your other half. When you learn how to create your orange buzz, you’ll literally become the relaxed, happy, glowing, confident person now that you want to feel in your dream relationship later. In fact, you’ll be so buzzing, your friends will ask, “What’s different about you?” Well, what’s different is that you’ll feel more amazing about yourself and your future relationship than you ever have before—and that’s exactly what’s going to naturally draw the right person straight to you.
Ready for your big relationship? Then pick up a copy from your local bookstore, or order the book from Amazon.com or BarnesandNoble.com or Borders.com or Powells.com today.
You can even read some excerpts from Meeting Your Half-Orange on the book’s website to get you even more pumped.
Big love and here’s to your half-orange!
Head to head: LOST vs. MYHO
I’ve been joking that tomorrow, February 2nd, is such a big day for me, I don’t know what to be more excited about: The official launch of my book, Meeting Your Half-Orange: An Utterly Upbeat Guide to Using Dating Optimism to Find Your Perfect Match, or the premiere of the final season of Lost on ABC! So which one’s better?
I mean, clearly the book means more to me personally, as I’m really proud of creating a book that can guide people toward one of the most wonderful things in the world: love. But on Tuesday night at 8 p.m.? Yeah, I’ll be tuned into ABC with a big bowl of popcorn to watch Lost.
The fact is, they’re both wonderful additions to the world and, believe it or not, have very similar gifts to offer. Which is why I’m putting Lost and my book head to head to see who comes out on top. Here, the battle begins:
LOST vs. MYHO (Meeting Your Half-Orange)
The survival
In LOST . . . we’ve watched the effects of flight Oceanic 815 crashing and burning that completely changed the lives of those who survived.
In MYHO . . . we’ve all had crash and burns in love, and we’ve survived and changed for the better.
The Winner: LOST
The mysteries
In LOST . . . we’ve learned about an island in the South Pacific, rife with powers that The Dharma Initiative was trying to understand. Their conclusion? Electromagnetism moved the island and can change the destiny of humanity.
In MYHO . . . you’ll learn about powers within yourself that neuroscientists have come to understand—that by changing your thoughts, you can change your brain and what you attract in your love life. My conclusion? Otimistic magnetism will move you toward the right relationship.
The Winner: MYHO
The miracles
In LOST . . . John Locke learned to walk again and Hurley knows what it feels like to really be in love with someone. Awww, Hurley.
In MYHO . . . everyone gets their love-legs back and learns to really be in love with someone.
The Winner: LOST
The insights
In LOST . . . you’ve gotten to see flashbacks and flash forwards, showing us what’s coming next.
In MYHO . . . you’ll learn how to use flash forwards in your favor: By visualizing yourself in the most adoring, awesome, weak-in-the-knees relationship, you’ll create the feelings that will ultimately lead you into that very relationship.
The Winner: MYHO
The love stories
In LOST . . . we’ve been able to watch the wildly adorable Jack and kick-ass Kate navigate their complicated attraction, while other couples grow closer from Sawyer and Juliette to Jin and Sun, Desmond and Penny, and the ever-adorable Rose and Bernard. (And for the record, if Jack and Kate don’t end up together at the end of this series, I’m going to sob myself to sleep. Call it a cliché ending if you want, I call it a happy one!)
In MYHO . . . you get to read about dozens of real kick-ass women and guys who found their other halves by being positive, optimistic and utterly determined that they would. And by the time you finish reading it, your happy ending will be on the way.
The Winner: MYHO
The cost
In LOST . . . the two-part pilot episode of the groundbreaking was reportedly the most expensive in ABC history, costing between $10 million and $14 million dollars!
In MYHO . . . the groundbreaking book costs only $15.61 if you order it now on Amazon.com.
The Winner: MYHO
The hope
In LOST . . . characters die and come back to life. Richard never ages. Jacob maybe lives forever, and hydrogen bombs may not be the end of everyone, but a whole new beginning for all the Lost characters.
In MYHO . . . you learn that the same miracles can happen. Your heart can come back to life. And the frustration and disappointment and difficulty you’ve been through in your dating life until now is not the end of a search for love—it’s a whole new beginning for you to find your other half. Your half-orange.
The Winner: MYHO
So, it was a tense battle with two worthy opponents. But the clear WINNER of the head to head is . . . drumroll please . . . MYHO: Meeting Your Half-Orange! (Phew, that would have been embarrassing if I, uh, lost.) For more information on the book, go to: Meeting Your Half-Orange.com
Big love and I really do hope you buy the book—and love it so much, you pass the word on!
8 Reasons to Go Out Tonight!
Today, I want to direct you to another place to get your dose of optimism…
…to the fabulously cute site BettyConfidential, which interviewed me for the story, “8 Reasons to Go Out Tonight.”
Here is the full story, citing Meeting Your Half-Orange, which *officially* launches next week, but is available now at Amazon.com, BarnesandNoble.com and in stores like Barnes & Noble and Borders, among others.
So…if you want to amp up your positivity, buy the book and read this inspiring story as to why getting out of the house tonight can be great for your dating life.
Oh, you mean you want to know the reasons? Then check out the rest of the story!
Big love and happy night out,
Are You Indentured to the Future?
I was cleaning out my office yesterday, which meant clearing out my bookshelves and all of that—cough, sneeze, gag—dust I didn’t seem to mind living with when I didn’t know it was there.
And in trying to decide which books I’d have to part with to make room for some new ones, I started flipping through them, including one by a writer/poet named Hugh Prather, who wrote the bestselling Notes to Myself and the one I just came across, I Touch the Earth, the Earth Touches Me from, get this, 1972. Inside, I found this note in the book, which I had put a square around with a pencil marked a star next to it. It was just as good all this time later:
“Not opening a can of tuna because last night’s roast will spoil if I don’t eat it; not changing the thermostat because later it might get too hot; not pulling over the coffee table to eat on because I will have to put it back—I am surprised at how much I indenture myself to the future.”
It reminded me how much I indentured myself to the future when I was single, so I wanted to ask: Are you doing the same? Not traveling to New Orleans for a cheap weekend fare because you’ve wanted to go there with a boyfriend or girlfriend? Not buying a cute new bed frame from IKEA because you want to wait to re-do your bedroom until you have a mate to do it with? Not signing up for those theater season seats, because who knows who you’ll meet and run off with between now and the fall?
And what about the small moments, when there’s so much that I don’t do, for example: Not lighting a candle because I don’t want to waste it. Not opening a bottle of champagne because I’m waiting for a special occasion. Not hanging my coat on the train’s coat hook because I’m just going to have to put my coat back on later? Well, I’m working on all that and trying to live in these moments more now. Because what about our life today, this minute? What are we all doing for ourselves to be happy now?
Let’s take Hugh’s point and do the opposite: Let’s not be a slave to our future. Don’t wait to celebrate your life until you have a romantic partner to celebrate with. What do you want to do with your travel money, your bedroom budget, your passions, your taste buds and your energy now? If you’re going to be hit by a bus next week, tomorrow—or in thirty minutes, even—what might you do this minute to make your life more worth living? The future will come eventually, and so will the love of your life, but why blow all the wonderful little moments you have now waiting for it? Break the chains that tie you to the future and do what makes you happy today. I assure you: Your love life will be the better for it.
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Big love,
Love Lesson: The Emergency Room Laugh
My friend Rajesh is a doctor. And while most of his days are spent dealing with serious illness and injury, every now and then he comes across something a little different. Like his story that involved a man in the emergency room, some plaster of Paris . . . and his penis.
What's up, doc? (Image: by Suat Eman: freedigitalphotos.net)
The patient told Raj that some plaster of paris had accidentally, somehow, sort of hardened in his rectum and in his urethra and he could not get it out.
“Is this a big problem? the man asked.
“Oh….ummm, yeah,” said Raj, “this could be a problem.”
Then, trying to dissolve the awkwardness of the doctors’ discussion on how to get his art project out of his bodily crevices, the man said, “I bet you guys see this all the time.”
“Well, no,” said Raj. “We really don’t.”
Raj fixed the guy and sent him on his way, and in doing so, realized something: On those stressful days, when work was about life and death and panicked family members pacing in the waiting room, Raj learned to appreciate those so-bad-they’re-good moments. And the more he talked about them with his co-workers and heard theirs, the lighter and more bearable work became. Some emergencies made him laugh as much as cry. The same is true with dating. Dating optimists don’t just see their dating glasses as half-full—they see them as full of really bubbly, fun stuff, one little taste of which can change your mood entirely.
The next time you show up on a blind date and realize he’s eight inches shorter than advertised (because, let’s be honest, everyone is shorter than advertised), or she has a laugh like Chandler Bing’s Janice, don’t write off the date. They may become a really great friend, a work colleague, or, at the very least, an in-the-dating-trenches story you’ll tell a friend to cheer up their crappy day.
I still tell the tale of the first date I had who leaned over the diner table after burgers and whispered, “Hey, want to do something really fun? Let’s dine and dash!” Apparently, he didn’t have enough money to pay for the bill. He didn’t get another date either after I covered it for him. Thank goodness for dates like this! They’re the emergency room stories of love, the ones you’ll laugh about for years, and tell your half-orange when you explain how grateful you are to have found each other through it all.
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Big love,
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