Optimisms
Cheering each other on
Your Secret Dating Weapon: Rest
Hola Dating Optimists!
I almost want to apologize for not being live this week, but I had good reason: I was sick as a perro. (I finally learned some Spanish in Argentina—hooray!—and “dog” was one of them). As sometimes happens after a whirlwind experience, the minute I landed back on home ground after taking nine flights and hitting eight cities in two countries, my immune system went on vacation and I ended up with a coldy, coughy, fevery, flu that had me horizontal on the couch every second I wasn’t doing paying work.
My kitty Minnie, who passed away last year, was a resting expert.
And as bad as I felt mentally for not saying hello to you all, I also knew that since I was so physically tired, the best thing I could do for the all of us was to rest. And it’s a message I want to pass along to you. Why? Because rest is vital in healing us in body, in spirit and in brain.
Think about it: on-third of every day is spent sleeping; in a 24-hour period, our bodies are meant to rest for eight of them. And in the classic Old Testament story of Genesis, God created light and sky and water and stars and meat and popcorn in the first six days, and on the seventh day. He rested. And it was, as they say, good.
As you date, you no doubt come across moments where you’re tired: Tired of arranging dates. Tired of physically getting ready for them. Tired of seeking out new places for new faces. Tired of hoping that each and every date might be The One. And tired of being disappointed when they’re not. And when you’re that tired, you know what you need? Rest.
Give yourself a gift this weekend: Let yourself off the hook. If you’re tired of planning, go rogue. If you’re tired of dolling up, go natural. If you’re tired of meeting new people, grab dinner with old friends. And if you’re tired of hoping for love, give yourself a break and rest.
When you’re sleeping, the organs revive and the brain takes a vacation and the body goes through a cycle of total rejuvenation so you can get back on the horse fresh and bold in the morning. Allow yourself the same with your love life. Rest in dating to revive and rejuvenate yourself so you can get back on the high-hoping love horse again. When you’re rested and ready, it will come.
Big love,
VITAMIN OPTIMISM: Live, People. Live.
Your dose for today…
“May you live all the days of your life.” —Jonathan Swift
Step out on the rocks, dive in, and do some living! (Image: AS)
It’s such a simple quote, I missed it the first time I read it. And I laughed the next time I read it. But if you really look at what he’s saying, you’ll be as moved as I am. Don’t just eat, drink and breathe your life. Live it. As a dating optimist, you know you’re going to have the relationship of your dreams, right? So don’t waste your single days with a sit-by-the-phone life! Step out there, do something big, make some bold moves, and really, truly live all these days of your life.
Big love,
VITAMIN OPTIMISM: Your Future Will Kick Ass
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Take just a few positive steps today. (Image: AS)
“I’m an optimist. I’ve always believed the future is going to be better than the past. And I also believe I have a role in that. The great thing about human beings, myself in particular, is that I can change. I can do better. If you can get up every day, stay optimistic, and believe the future is better than the past, those few things get you through a lot of tough times.” —Jeffrey Immelt
I love how he puts this and how right he is. Optimism isn’t something you either have or you don’t. It’s something you can start doing today, right now. Believe your dating and love future is going to be better than the past. It’s simple, but it’s hard. So don’t expect things to change in a snap! Just take it step by step by step, whether you’re wearing Converse Chucks or a pair of heels. This morning, for instance, forgive yourself for past mistakes, or forgive others for hurting you. If you want it to be so, your future will be better than your past.
Big love,
VITAMIN OPTIMISM: Coincidence? I Think Not.
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“When you live your life with an appreciation of coincidences and their meanings, you connect with the underlying field of infinite possibilities.”
—Deepak Chopra
Appreciate the possibilities (Image: AS)
What happens to us all may be by coincidence, or it may be that you’ve called it into your life. Don’t wave off the simple things—follow them like guideposts. The next cocktail invite you receive, date you’re asked out on, or yoga class you stumble across, give it credence. Say yes if you can. If you’re focusing on what you want and how you want to feel, life will provide signs to guide you there. Tune in today and follow those signs.
Big love,
VITAMIN OPTIMISM: Plant Your Seed
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Think of what you want to plant...and blow (Image: Ken Spencer)
“Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds you plant.”
—Robert Louis Stevenson
We talk so often about what we want to get—and I, too, ask you to focus with sheer determination on it. If you can focus on what you want with all your heart, you can have it. But while you ask to reap, look also at what you sow. Did you make someone feel secure about themselves today? Did you make someone smile? Did you feed the seed of someone else’s rough day or lonely night? Think about this, too, when you’re on your next date. Whether you like your date or not, remember that they are also on their own journey to find their half-orange, so don’t just think about what you got or didn’t from the date. Think about what you’re leaving them with, too.
Big love,
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