I left my house yesterday for my acupuncture appointment without my iPhone. At the office, they said the time had been mis-scheduled and I’d have to wait 30 more minutes.
“Oh no!” my insides screamed. “30 minutes in a waiting room with no iPhone?!”
And then, I thought about it. What would I, as The Life Optimist, tell myself in this situation? I’d tell myself this:
Accept the surprise, in this case, of free time. We love the idea of a surprise party for our birthday (well, some of us do), so why not learn to enjoy the surprise parties of life?
So I did.
Instead of anxiously bouncing my crossed leg on my knee until my name was called, I watched the video of a man doing Chi Dong exercises on a river in China, and imagined myself there, strolling the river. I listened to the Chinese music playing lightly and the waterfall feature in the office sprinkling water like a tiny stream. And then, I picked up a copy of Natural Health sat back in the cushy chair to read. By the time my name was called, I was calm and centered and happy to be rid of the instinct to check my email before I went in. It worked for me and it can work for you: Accept the surprise.
If you’re on a date and he or she walks in and you feel zero attraction, accept the surprise, in this case, of being put in a position to search for something about them you do like. Find out what makes their life special, what their passions are and what they’ve learned in life. You just might learn something yourself.
When life throws you a curve ball and you get stuck in a place or position or job you don’t want to be doing, accept the surprise and find out what you can gain from it. If you focus on the frustration, that’s all you’ll feel. So accept the surprise and enjoy the party life is secretly throwing you.
Have you ever made the best of a bummer surprise? In love, at work, in life? How did you do it?
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