Hi J.,
Thanks so much for writing. So your real question was a bit longer, explaining that the guy you have a huge crush works at a food co-op where you live. As you said, “I have never talked to him before, besides telling him that yes, in fact, I would love my receipt in the bag [smiley]. I go to that grocery store like several times a week to ‘buy coffee and a sandwich,’ but really it’s, well, basically, to stalk him.” And that’s when you ask if it’s okay, at 25, to have a crush on this guy.
My answer? Hells yeah! Should you go for it? Absolutely. Smile back and talk to him for a second and see if you feel a connection. If not, no worries. If so, then see what happens. Just keep in mind, not every guy needs to be your half-orange, but every guy will be a step to getting there in some way. So let yourself try out dating all types of people, even faces you wouldn’t picture yourself with, because you never know. Meeting and dating all types of different people is good for you, so don’t hold back wondering “But is he my half-orange?” with anyone. Let that connection come naturally—like the organic food in the store.
Which is why, I know you’re joking when you say you’re “stalking” him, but as I say in Meeting Your Half-Orange, a dating optimist doesn’t need to stalk! If it’s supposed to happen, it will. And if it’s him, great! If not, go with the flow, see what comes and what you learn from it. The right person will reveal himself to you in due time, but the only way you’ll know is by seeing how you feel when you’re with them. So the next time he offers you a receipt, maybe give this guy an eye-lock and a confident smile that suggests you might offer your number in return. Then see what happens.
—Amy
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