This week, I went to another lecture by Marianne Williamson. And I love that so many of you love her too, and that some of you are even attending these same lectures (hi Kelly!). She was so full of wisdom, it’s hard to pick just one nugget to pass along, so I’ll make it easy and share the first one that made me think, “I need to tell my dating optimists this!”
Here’s a question for you: Have you ever said, “I don’t know if I have it in me?” Maybe you’ve said it about work or about facing a difficult issue head on. Or maybe you’ve said it about your love life: Maybe you’ve worried that you don’t have the ability to open up to love or to make a commitment inside you. Well, as Marianne Williamson essentially said,
“Saying, ‘I just don’t have it in me,’ is like an acorn saying, ‘I just don’t know if I have an oak tree in me.'”
Marianne then went on to say that “the presence of fear is proof you’re trusting your own strength.” And that’s so true. Think about it. If you really knew you didn’t have something in you—the way, say, I know I don’t have it in me to be a stuntman skydiver—we’d say just that flat out: “Hells, no, I’ll definitely never ever be able to do that!” The fact that you’re afraid is a sign that you know you can do it.
So the next time you hear yourself saying you don’t know if you have it inside, picture a scared little acorn and the strength it has inside—the strength you have inside. Like the acorn, there’s no denying what you’re capable of, whether you guys like it or not.
You have the potential to love and be loved. You have the potential to commit. And you have the ability to become positive and hopeful about it in the meantime, until your half-orange steps into your path. Tune into what you have inside and trust in it. If the acorn can do it, so can you.