You Were Not Built to Break

This is from an earlier post I did on Whitney Houston. With this great loss of such a talented woman, I’m glad her words and her voice can live on for us all in this way.

Sometimes things hurt so bad you think you’ll never get over it. Sometimes bad things happen that you have no control over, or you can’t explain. And sometimes we all feel “broken,” like we can’t get anything right and we’re doomed to failure and feeling alone.

But please know that if you ever feel this way: Tears and fear are part of the path of life—and proof that you’re healthy and emotionally advanced. You can’t feel great happiness unless you’re able to feel great pain. And the way I see it, if you’re feeling pain now, it means the happiness is on the other end of the seesaw just waiting to take its turn.

Whitney Houston says it best in her song “I Didn’t Know My Own Strength”:

“Survived the darkest hour, my faith kept me alive, I picked myself back up, hold my head up high,

I was not built to break. I didn’t know my own strength.


Whether you’re facing a heartwrenching, life-altering time or just having a really, really, really sad or bad day, when it feels like your half-orange in love will never come your way or you’ll never get out of the hole you’re in, it’s part of life’s path for you. If you can feel this deeply in sadness, you can feel this deeply in love. And Whitney’s right: You were not built to break. None of us were.

Big love,