VITAMIN OPTIMISM

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VITAMIN OPTIMISM: The Open-Your-Eyes Moment

Tuesday, September 14th, 2010

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“Each morning when I open my eyes I say to myself: I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it.” —Groucho Marx

I mean...look at all the beauty to be had out there today. (Image: Amy Spencer)

Wow, who knew? Groucho Marx was a dating optimist! He was also a very wise man. There’s not much I can say that means more than the way he put it. Because he’s right: You—not what happens to you—have the power to make yourself happy. And if not today, then when? Don’t put off being happy until you find your other half. You have today and you might not have tomorrow, so choose, like Groucho, to be happy in it. Find what’s worth being grateful for. When you wake up in the morning and open your eyes, find the beauty, the funny, the friendship. The more you make yourself happy today, the sooner you’ll meet the person who wants to be a part of all that love and happiness with you for tomorrow.

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Big love,

Amy Signature 4

VITAMIN OPTIMISM: Obstacles? Phooey.

Friday, August 27th, 2010

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“Obstacles are things a person sees when he takes his eyes off his goal.” —E. Joseph Cossman

If you're focused on the right thing, the route will feel glassy and clear. (Image: Amy Spencer)

What a cool quote, I love this! I picture looking at a soccer goal while kicking the ball along, that if all you’re seeing is where you want to place the ball in the net, you won’t notice the line of defenders rushing at you from all angles, you won’t notice the flash of a goalie with his arms outstretched, and maybe you won’t notice that I’ve never played more than six minutes of soccer in my life and that it would be a miracle if I kicked the ball and it went forward, never mind into the goal. But you know what I mean.

If you’re thinking about love today or your happy future, train your eyes past the stuff that stands between you and what you want. If you change your focus and aim it on what you want, the big pains in the butt of life will turn into blurs in the foreground. It’s like I say in Meeting Your Half-Orange: It’s not your job to know how to get what you want, it’s your job to want it. So forget about the obstacles you might hit in the next week—the bad dates, the so-so matches, the new people that may come between you and meeting the love of your life. Stay focused on the goal and they won’t seem so daunting anymore. Here’s the best idea: Just imagine the moment when you find your match and the announcer in your head hops up and yells “Gooooooooooaaaaaallllllll.”

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Big love,

Amy Signature 4

VITAMIN OPTIMISM: Reach for the Fruit

Monday, August 9th, 2010

Let this nourish your optimism and happiness all week long.

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“Go out on a limb—that’s where the fruit is.” —Jimmy Carter

You can't eat it if you don't reach to pluck it (and yes, tomato is a fruit, remember?) Image: Amy Spencer

We’ve all reached out for things we didn’t get: We apply for a big reach college that doesn’t accept us. We pitch an idea for our dream product that doesn’t get past the first round. And in love, we express our feelings for someone who doesn’t feel the love for us. Losing what we wanted leaves us hurt, bruised and fallen. But it should never, ever leave us too injured to try again. Life and love are all about reaching out. You can’t get what you don’t ask for and you can’t receive love if you don’t give it.

The best things on this earth come from hard-to-reach places, both outside and within yourself. So go out on a limb in love: Tell the person you like how you feel, ask out that stranger at the bus stop, be  honest in your online profile about the “serious relationship” you want. Sure, sometimes you’ll get bruised. But other times, reaching out will get you that sweet, delicious, perfect, plump fruit that made going out on a limb so worth it after all.

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Big love,

Amy Signature 4

VITAMIN OPTIMISM: A Top Chef’s Bad Day

Thursday, July 8th, 2010

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“I don’t think I left because I’m a bad chef. I think I left because I had a bad day.”

—Tracey Bloom, from Top Chef D.C.

Don't let rejection drown you: Find the boat that floats (Image: AS)

A new episode of Top Chef D.C. aired last night, but this quote comes from the chef who packed her knives the week before. And I love it because it’s a reminder that rejection isn’t a stamp of future doom on our foreheads, it’s just a passing bump in time!

In life and love, if you get blown off, or dumped or not called back, or dismissed, it’s easy to take that in as a judgment of who you are. “I’m not worthy of the best,” you might think. Or, “No one else will want me either.” But Tracey’s experience is a perfect example of how to keep things in perspective. The next time you feel like you’ve been ousted, don’t take it as a sign that you’re not good enough, cute enough, sexy enough, talented enough or smart enough. Take it as a sign that maybe you were having a bad day—and they were suffering from a complete and utter lack of taste to appreciate you. It’s all in how you look at it. Just make sure you come out on Top. Your half-orange will sure think you do.

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Big love,

Amy Signature 4

VITAMIN OPTIMISM: How Much Feelings Matter

Friday, June 25th, 2010

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“Indeed, feelings don’t just matter—they’re what mattering means.” —Daniel Gilbert, Stumbling on Happiness

How does this make you feel? That's what you can tune into. (Image: AS)

Sometimes, people who wonder where to go in love turn to logic for the answer. Logic just seems like a more reasonable way to assess a situation, right? By framing the potential of a relationship like a business plan, you’re more likely to end up with a clear-cut answer. But guess what? Love don’t work like that. Love isn’t logical, never was.

What matters more is what’s pulled from the other parts of your brain, the emotional parts. Those are the parts that take every relationship you’ve ever had, every hurt you’ve ever felt, every smile you’ve ever grinned, that take your pride, your hope, your pain, your struggles, your fears, your tastes and your dreams, and rolls them up into a warm package that comes out of you in a way that defies logic and language. Those are your feelings, your instincts, your gut. Do you love him? Well, what do your feelings say? That’s what matters. As Gilbert says, that’s what mattering means.

Have you ever been steered wrong by trusting your instincts and tuning into your feelings—or have you ever been steered right?

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Big love,

Amy Signature 4